tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post1628032270877379596..comments2024-03-27T09:54:45.294+00:00Comments on Madhouse Family Reviews: Is this really how to stand up to the bullies ?Cheryl Pasquierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17616020125806847507noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-11301638883810717412012-09-28T23:15:26.229+01:002012-09-28T23:15:26.229+01:00No i agree i don't think its been dealt with r...No i agree i don't think its been dealt with right at all, no wonder she was so upset, i hope things get better for herSamantha O'Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00737001912232824064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-91487269916255919512012-09-27T19:39:05.319+01:002012-09-27T19:39:05.319+01:00Really interesting reading all your comments and r...Really interesting reading all your comments and realising just how many people have been through it :(Cheryl Pasquierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17616020125806847507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-73410221577595471792012-09-27T19:31:56.234+01:002012-09-27T19:31:56.234+01:00what a shame for sophie - and i dont think it has ...what a shame for sophie - and i dont think it has been handled very well by the school!mummy24https://www.blogger.com/profile/15358816909029435312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-80043779287794824142012-09-26T03:45:55.356+01:002012-09-26T03:45:55.356+01:00Awful for Sophie, decades later I'm sure I sti...Awful for Sophie, decades later I'm sure I still bear the scars of name calling/shoving. We were always moving so I was always the "outsider". It's probably the same old story of the other girls not feeling good about themselves and one or two leading the others astray. I don't know how easy it is for a child to adopt adult strategies but if I knew then what I know now.... I'd be calling myself "Le Roast Boef" as a badge of honour with a big smile and getting my closest friends to call me it too so everyone knows it is a term of endearment. If you pick up and use what they throw at you, they will get bored with it. Lots of love and kind wishes in Sophie's direction xxxArabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10392714620206145659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-56752554834531483962012-09-25T22:35:46.917+01:002012-09-25T22:35:46.917+01:00Poor Sophie, how very upsetting. The school's ...Poor Sophie, how very upsetting. The school's attitude is abysmal, are there any witnesses that could come to Sophie's defence? Kids often pick on those who are different, in Sophie's case, she is half-English. Hope the school will be more helpful, can you talk to that girl's parents? Hugs to you bothGalina Varesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10113049600313050157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-58957032684882893852012-09-25T21:59:47.504+01:002012-09-25T21:59:47.504+01:00I do not think the school is doing enough, persona...I do not think the school is doing enough, personally I would be knocking on the girl's parents door and having words with both her and her parents. It makes my blood boil to think a school treats this so lightly.kitchen princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14255473026637781074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-32972953913098698082012-09-25T21:47:47.254+01:002012-09-25T21:47:47.254+01:00Oh this story makes me really sad. I was bullied a...Oh this story makes me really sad. I was bullied at School. Nothing major, just some name calling and a bit of shoving, a bit like what you're describing here. I never did anything at the time, I just laughed it off but ended up really shy and nervous of meeting new people. I often now wish I'd shouted out about it and got something done about it, but if this is how the School have reacted it's no wonder kids don't want to. I really hope, for Sophie, that things do get better - making friends and becoming a teenager is hard work on its own (and really those kids should be jealous of Sophie being bilingual, but that's easy for us to say). Zoe Homeshttp://splodzblogz.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-75124114128084237412012-09-25T21:21:57.002+01:002012-09-25T21:21:57.002+01:00Thanks very much for your feedback xx - I feel lik...Thanks very much for your feedback xx - I feel like Worzel Gummidge, trying to get my mum-head and teacher-head on simultaneously tonight. Totally agree with you re Sophie needing some attitude. You'd be amazed at the number of racist comments she gets about being English, so that could be one thing. She was gutted to end up in a class where she knows nobody so ends up being on her own in the playground until all her mates (who are all together in a different class) come out to join her. She's at that early-teen stage where she's feeling ugly and self-conscious (body changing etc) which could be another issue. I'll go and have a look at your link and will work on boosting her confidence a bit too - great idea :)Cheryl Pasquierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17616020125806847507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-30684332086972492702012-09-25T21:03:48.314+01:002012-09-25T21:03:48.314+01:00I think that in this case the school has really le...I think that in this case the school has really let her down - it's time to go in and ask exactly what they think they were doing (but in a much more sensible fashion and only using that tone of voice when you get furious!).<br /><br />In the meantime sophie needs to learn some attitude and some avoidance tactics. This girl obviously picks on lots of kids, but why is she pointing sophie out? Does sophie feel less confident because she is bilingual (sorry I dont have time to read more of your blog tonight, but really wanted to help). I have a viewpoint of bullying whereby the bully needs help/discipline to address their issues, but the bullied also needs to get stronger and more confident, as children who are sure of themselves are less likely to have this happen.<br /><br />For my son it was after school clubs that helped - doing things that raised his confidence. I'd need to know more about sophie to know what would work for her (maybe one of those martial arts where with a flip of the finger your oponent is on the floor and it looks like you didn't do anything LOL?). But there will be something. Maybe even just role playing through the conversations and giving her ideas on what she could say to stop a conversation with the bully and walk away?<br /><br />I've written up loads about bullying on my site. It might be a less traditional view, but it really works. As you are a teacher I could point you in the direction of some theoretical books based upon the same theories if you want - just let me know.<br /><br />oops nearly forgot to point you to the right place - http://mummywhispererblog.com/school/bullying-2/<br />Mummy Whispererhttp://mummywhispererblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003888645468433795.post-18081707027215945952012-09-25T20:34:32.731+01:002012-09-25T20:34:32.731+01:00That does not sound the right approach to me. I ho...That does not sound the right approach to me. I hope that Sophie has no more problems :( Big school is hard enoughAlisonhttp://www.dragonsandfairydust.co.uknoreply@blogger.com